Today is hair wash day...I should've done it yesterday, but it got late, I got tired, and this is a process.
I have a process when it comes to MIB's hair. I've done research on other blogs on the best way to do thick, natural, nappy hair (yes I call our hair nappy because it is and I ain't ashamed and won't let her be ashamed...it is what it is) and took tips from so many sites to finally get my own routine down with her hair.
Also, I need to let you know that my hair skills are minimal: I can't french braid, do designs, or that cute stuff. But that's ok because I like to keep it simple: two strand twists (TST), box braids, puffs, and my latest Ghanaian twists (GTs) (I just learned how to do these a few months ago). I do the GTs to stretch her hair, not for length or straightness, but to better do her hair. Since our hair is nappy, it tangles up around itself something terrible...not bad for me but a nightmare for her. So to keep her pain level to a minimum and our process down to a few hours instead of all day I do the GTs.
This is my process for the day:
First I washed her hair with Hair One cleansing conditioner. This stuff is like Wen (which I've used before) but so much cheaper; it cost about a third less than Wen. Her hair is already in 12 TST which makes it easier for me to wash and detangle her hair. I put the Hair One in each twist, massage it in thoroughly to clean it, rinse it completely (detangling as I go), and then retwist it and move on to the next one.
|Pre wash and already parted|
Once I was done with the cleansing her hair, I got my arsenal ready: Disney Jr, my shea butter mix, a bottle of detangler mixed with water, weave thread, scissors, rat tail comb, and my savior, a Tangle Tamer Max brush (more on this in a minute). I turned Disney Jr. on and get started.
|Definition after Tangle Teezer|
I sprayed her hair with the water/detangler mix and brushed it out with her Tangle Tamer Max to fully detangle it. Then I get some of our shea butter mix, applied it to her hair, and brushed it with the Tangle Tamer Max again. (I just need to tell you that the Tangle Tamer Max works best on her hair and detangling it. It easily guides through her hair during our detangling session and actually defines her curls when I allow her to wear it loose. It works for us but might not be the best for you...but dammit I love it lol).
|First GT done|
Once it's detangled I'll normally use her rat tail come to part her hair (but since it's already in twists I don't need to use it) and I'll start the GTs process. I can't explain it but you can view this video by Girls Love Your Curls (LOVE HER!) here:
How long I keep the GTs up depends on what I want to do with her hair and what my schedule looks like. Since MIB has off tomorrow, I'll keep them in tonight, take them down tomorrow and will do EITHER TST or box braids with beads (I'm leaning towards the box braids because I can keep those up for a few weeks). I try to keep this routine every two weeks...but once a week I take her hair down, dampen it a little with my detangler/water mix, put a little more shea butter mix on it, brush it to remove lint, and retwist it (depending on the size of the twist, last week I was able to do that because she only had 12 TST). This takes at the most an hour or two episodes of Doc McStuffins.
I have to keep myself committed to this routine because I've gone longer without doing her hair properly and the tears and screams are more than I can handle...she acts like I'm torturing her. And to her I am. But since I am keeping this routine, it makes it easier on her, it goes by so much more quickly, and we kind of use this time as bonding time. Even though I talk to her everyday about what she did at school or what she did with Nani that day, I'd use our hair time to just talk about life in general. Also, this is a way for me to teach her the best methods for her hair and how to love and appreciate her hair for what it is:beautiful.
What are your hair routines with your MIB YCMs/YCFs?
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